benni
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A few of you follow me on FB, so you know what has been going on. Others, maybe not so much. My nephew was found June 26th, unconscious and barely breathing. He has been ICU since that time, on a vent, dialysis, feeding tube. The doctors have diagnosed him with anoxic brain damage and have told my sister there is no medical recovery for this. I've found out since that time that it was due to an accidental pain pill overdose. His girlfriend said he took, what he thought, were loose Tylenol pills that were in the glove box of her car for a headache. They were actually codeine. She said that they had "messed with him" and that he still had a headache and took more on top of it, not realizing how many he had already taken. They've taken him off the vent as of yesterday, and his eyes are open, but he's focusing on nothing. My sister said that the doctors have told her there is no brain function at all.
She called me last week to talk and informed me that one of our cousins sons was found around the same time as my nephew, in the same condition (barely breathing and unconscious) but they had found him in time and he's already home. And then told me another cousin had died last Sunday, his funeral was Friday. I stayed with this cousin, my aunt, and uncle, for a while after my mom had died when I was little, so always felt close to this part of my family.
My sister is really struggling dealing with the situation with Timmy. She had lost her 6 yo grandson in November, when he drowned. That's only been 7 months ago, and now she is dealing with a new kind of grief on top of it. The doctors have told Leslie that if Timmy were their son, they would let him go, because he won't come back from this. When my sister had called, she made sure I had a chance to talk with Timmy (my Timmony Cricket), tell him I love him, and say good bye. She is ready to let him go, but his father isn't able to. His father was the one that was with their grandson when he drowned, so he has blamed himself, and I think if he agrees to turn off all life support, he'll blame himself for this too. So their goal right now is to get Timmy to a health condition in which he can be moved to a long term care facility for a couple of months, to give him every opportunity to regain some function, but that if he doesn't regain any functioning, they'll decide at that time what further steps to take or not take.
I've been waiting, ever since June 26th, for my sister to call me and tell me that Timmy has died, waiting to make that drive to Missouri for a funeral that I hope never has to come. It's been a rough time for my sister especially, and I'm being supportive for her, being here for her, listening when she needs to talk, and praying for a miracle, but have been grieving as well.
Add work to this and increased job responsibilities and stress on top of that ... I'll get through it. I always do. But right now is rough.
She called me last week to talk and informed me that one of our cousins sons was found around the same time as my nephew, in the same condition (barely breathing and unconscious) but they had found him in time and he's already home. And then told me another cousin had died last Sunday, his funeral was Friday. I stayed with this cousin, my aunt, and uncle, for a while after my mom had died when I was little, so always felt close to this part of my family.
My sister is really struggling dealing with the situation with Timmy. She had lost her 6 yo grandson in November, when he drowned. That's only been 7 months ago, and now she is dealing with a new kind of grief on top of it. The doctors have told Leslie that if Timmy were their son, they would let him go, because he won't come back from this. When my sister had called, she made sure I had a chance to talk with Timmy (my Timmony Cricket), tell him I love him, and say good bye. She is ready to let him go, but his father isn't able to. His father was the one that was with their grandson when he drowned, so he has blamed himself, and I think if he agrees to turn off all life support, he'll blame himself for this too. So their goal right now is to get Timmy to a health condition in which he can be moved to a long term care facility for a couple of months, to give him every opportunity to regain some function, but that if he doesn't regain any functioning, they'll decide at that time what further steps to take or not take.
I've been waiting, ever since June 26th, for my sister to call me and tell me that Timmy has died, waiting to make that drive to Missouri for a funeral that I hope never has to come. It's been a rough time for my sister especially, and I'm being supportive for her, being here for her, listening when she needs to talk, and praying for a miracle, but have been grieving as well.
Add work to this and increased job responsibilities and stress on top of that ... I'll get through it. I always do. But right now is rough.
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